Sex toys have lost a lot of their stigma in the post 50’s world, but those looking for a good vibrator or cock ring may still have a hard time finding one at Walmart. Thank goodness there are lots of great websites offering a wide variety of adult toys, and they tend to ship discreetly, not that there’s any harm in buying sex toys! Either way, here’s where and how to buy them
Check for toxic materials before (and after) you buy
The first thing to remember when you buy toys online is that you should avoid certain types of materials when you intend to put them on or inside sensitive parts of your body. While there are many online sites that run legitimate businesses, there aren’t many rules about what chemicals can and can’t be used in adult toys, which means that even trusted sites can sell ‘novelty items’ that are harmful to your body.
Reddit user RubyRyder has a more comprehensive guide here, but in a nutshell, try to avoid PVC toys containing phthalates. Phthalates are very harmful to your health, especially if used over a long period of time. In some cases, you can get non-toxic plastics, but ideal options include silicone, metal or glass toys. These may be a little more expensive, but they are worth it in the long run.
When identifying toys of dubious toxicity, RubyRyder recommends taking into account the smell (if you’re shopping online, you should always double check items when you get them). PVC toys tend to have and maintain a strong chemical smell. Translucent or clear toys are also more likely to be made of unhealthy plastics.
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Find a safe online sex toys shop
Not all online shops are created equally. Once you’ve narrowed down your purchase and determined that it’s made of safe, non-toxic materials, you’ll still need to find a reputable shop. Fortunately, the internet has been around long enough for some of the leaders to emerge as reliable, safe and discreet. Please note that all of the following sites contain very NSFW images.
SexySoS is one of the largest and most prestigious online retailers, SexySoS has a good selection of sex toys and lingerie as well as general health information. The site has many of the same features as the others on this list, including discreet shipping and a long-standing reputation for reliability. However, Extreme Restrictions has the advantage of being more eclectic in its fetishism. If you can’t find what you’re looking for on any of the other sites on this list, this one probably has you covered.
If you’re looking for more options, try checking out Wish, ebay. it’s also worth noting that Amazon has a great selection of adult toys and accessories. One downside to this (which we’ll discuss below) is that since Amazon has both first- and third-party sellers, it can be a little difficult to determine their autonomous shipping policies. You may also miss out on deals or coupons that some smaller retailers offer to attract customers. Not to mention the sex toys you’ll get in your order history and suggestions, which you may prefer to avoid. Nonetheless, for Prime subscribers or Amazon cardholders, it may be worth it.
Determine a discreet shipping policy
Even the most comfortable and open-minded person may not want a box with big letters at the door that says “Bob’s Funtime Sexteria and Dildo Emprium”. Fortunately, most large shops are aware of this and offer a discreet delivery service.
Different shops have different approaches to this policy. Some shops like Pure Romance are as discreet as possible from start to finish, even online in the form of beauty or health shops. Others like Extreme Restrictions may be more upfront when shopping, but still put indescribable labels on their packaging. When shopping on the site, check the Frequently Asked Questions page or the Shipping and Discretionary Policies page.
Once you have found the stated policy, you can check it against reviews or customer feedback. For example, Amazon is usually very good at shipping discreetly, but sometimes a pin or two will slip through the cracks. While these reviews help spot shops that don’t always follow their policies, it also highlights the simple fact that whatever you do, you’re taking a risk. If you want to make sure no one sees it, you can set up an inbox, but if not, you might end up sharing some awkward looks with your roommate.